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While everyone else seems to get some rest for their jobs, there is never an off day for a single mom.
The readership for this section is very diverse. You come from all different backgrounds, by way of culture, age, professional background, income, and more. The theme of this section is about single motherhood and, as single moms have complex and difficult lives, sometimes it is very comforting knowing others have experienced similar trials.
Find here tips and advice on how to save time and money while maintaining a household, leaving you more time for rising your kids. See other moms’ perspective, learn from their experience.
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ARE YOU FEELING ALONE AS A SINLGE PARENT!

@beanstalk mum

Parenting is ideally a two-person gig, but not all mums are fortunate enough to have support. Worse, a lot of lonely single mums also find themselves grappling with financial worries and/or work demands. Is it any wonder the burden can feel too heavy and we may sometimes feel lonely, possibly even depressed.
Fortunately, after four years (and counting!) into single motherhood, I’ve managed to build myself an arsenal for coping with loneliness as a single parent. Today, I thought I’d share them with you.

Fortunately, after four years (and counting!) into single motherhood,
I’ve managed to build myself an arsenal for coping with loneliness as a
single parent. Today, I thought I’d share them with you.




FIND A SENSE OF BELONGING

It might come as a surprise to realise that although you experience isolation, you are not alone. Just being aware of others out there in the same position is a comforting thought. And not only that, there are resources to reach out to these mums. Try our Anonymous Single Mum Forum where you can chat about anything single mum related. It’s also worth looking up single mother groups in your area. Never underestimate the power of community, being part of one can help you cope with loneliness as single parent.

KNOW YOUR LONELY MOMENTS

You’ll be familiar with your ‘lonely moments’. Certain times, such as when your children go to dad’s house (that is once you’ve revelled in the peace and quiet). It is common for single parents to experience separation anxiety at this time. Being alone in your home might make you feel unsafe. Prepare yourself by staying busy. You don’t need to clean the kitchen cupboards or organise the sock drawer. Just do something that positively engages your mind. Read, do some sport, practice self-care, call a friend, watch a movie. By dispelling feelings of loneliness at these key times, can help you cope with further feelings of desolation that are harder to disperse.

GET ON THE CANTEEN

It’s a catch-22 situation when you feel lonely but don’t have time to do
anything about it. But there’s a pool of mums right on your doorstep,
at your children’s school.  There’s no need to head-up the PTA. Maybe
offer to assist with canteen duties or classroom help at a time that
works for you. You’ll meet other mums, many of whom are also looking for
companionship. And there’s no doubt that your child will love you being
a part of their world.

NURTURE FRIENDSHIPS

This may seem like an obvious suggestion. Yet, as busy single mums, we
can be forgiven for not making an effort to stay in contact with our
friends. And the reality is, your friends are probably wrapped up in
their own worlds too. The result: A loss of contact. Sad really, as
there’s nothing like chatting with a friend to alleviate ‘lonely single
mother’ syndrome. Work on a schedule with your close friends and family.
Arrange a phone call every week or a coffee every month. If it’s
planned, you have something to look forward to and are building barriers
to help cope with the loneliness.

MASTER MEDITATION

Meditation allows you to be aware of yourself as you live your life and gives your headspace a break. It is an effective way to cope with the loneliness of single parenting by calmly accepting your thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations. It allows you to pinpoint what’s bringing you down at any given time, which means you can do something about it. It’s unfair to assume single mothers are lonely because they lack a romantic partner; it’s more complex than that. Anytime you feel unhappy or lonely, ask yourself, why am I feeling like this? When you know what the problem is, you are one step closer to a solution.